Jeffry and I met in the cancer treatment center. Both of us were there with our fathers. We talked freely about cancer treatment, the side effects, and how sad it is to see someone you love be sick. The biggest difference between us was that Jeffry was four while I was forty-two. His dad was younger than me and half the age of my father…and I’ve no doubt that he was dying.
Spending time in a cancer center or the cancer ward of a hospital is often an experience that stays with you. On one level, it’s a place of business going about its daily activities. But on another level, people are fighting for their lives. The waiting room is a mix of chit-chat, tears, symptoms, and laughter — old, young, happy, angry, fighting, resigned, rich, poor, and a variety of other factors — it’s all there.
My time with Jeffry affected me deeply. He was such a brave little soul, and it was refreshing to talk with someone who was so open about the entire experience. The dad was going through his third series of chemo and radiation (all for different tumor locations), most likely hanging on and fighting so intensely to spend as many days as possible with his son. Despite the bravery of the pair, it’s likely that Jeffry’s days with his father were severely limited.
I rarely cried at the hospital or cancer center as my brother and father went through treatment, but I sat in the car and cried the day I met Jeffry.
Cancer affects everyone these days, either directly or via friends and family. Treatment options are advancing, but the day when there is a certain cure for all forms of cancer is not here yet. Until that happy day arrives, the best we can do is support each other and fight cancer with the treatment options we currently have.
My friend, Nate Miyaki, recently lost his dad and father-in-law to cancer while his sister continues her fight. The experience moved him to write a book to help others, and he asked me to edit it. Because my father, brother, nephew, a close friend, family members of friends, friends of my family, several community members, and a few past patients have either fought or are fighting cancer, I felt privileged to be part of something that might help make the journey less taxing for others.
Nate’s background is one of fitness and martial arts, and you’ll notice those influences while reading. Maybe you don’t view recovering from or dealing with cancer as a fight or a competition, and maybe you really relate to the martial arts or sports approach. Regardless of your background, The Way of the Cancer Warrior: 34 Strategies For Your Cancer War gives strategies for helping you, your family, and your friends successfully approach and emotionally deal with cancer. (If you don’t like the battle-theme, just skip straight to the strategies and ignore the lingo…you’ll still find good ideas.)
Now, you may not need all 34 strategies, but you’re likely to find at least one that makes the process easier. In fact, I think the strategies apply to any chronic or severe illness and possibly any major life-challenge. I wish I’d had this book when I was fighting for my own life several years ago.
Please check out The Way of the Cancer Warrior: 34 Strategies For Your Cancer War, and if it helps you or someone you know, I hope you spread the word and tell others about it. Part of the purchase of each book goes to various cancer charities.
(If you don’t have a Kindle, remember that you can still read Kindle books on your computer after a free install of the Kindle reader for PC’s. )
May we each live to know a cancer-free world.