Have you ever known that it’s time to move on, but you linger anyway? Perhaps you stay because of sentiment or because you aren’t ready to admit that things have changed. For me, it’s a bit of both.
I loved my practice—the patients, the emotional reward of helping people and feeling like I made a difference, the independence of being my own boss, the hard work, and the constant learning. The entire experience was a perfect fit, until it wasn’t.
Most of the people currently reading my blog are here because they know me or have worked with me. Others come from searches. Those searches usually relate to my series about Lemons vs. Turds and How to Deal with Drama, but then there’s the ever popular cashew nacho “cheese” recipe. So, I guess people come to my blog seeking non-dairy alternatives for when the chips are down. 😉
I said that jokingly. It’s the truth hidden within the witty remark that makes us laugh, though, isn’t it?
My patients probably couldn’t tell you exactly what it was that made me a good doc or why they sent others to me, but I can. When I was a kid, someone taught me that I always had a choice—that no matter what the situation, I was capable of making a choice that made a positive difference. If I couldn’t change the external problem, I could change my internal response. With lots of practice, I learned to apply that to everything in my life…and to the problems of my patients.
You see, it’s not that people fail to realize they should eat healthier, exercise, make changes, or take better care of themselves. The problem lies in their inability to create steps that let them feel safe enough to leave behind the old and reach for the new. In other words, they can’t see the bridge between who they are and who they want to be, so they stop searching (and ultimately believing) that there’s a way to make the necessary change. Patients came to me because they were in pain, but they came back and brought others with them because my solution for their pain often involved the above and no one else was teaching them how to think that way for themselves.
Because Charlie taught me that there is always a choice, I looked closer for a solution than many of my colleagues. Most of the time, the solution was simple. It’s just that we tend to think that the more pain we’re in, the more complicated our problem is. Typically that’s the complete opposite of the truth.
I can’t tell you how many painful shoulders (the kind of pain that left patients unable to comb their hair, fasten their shirts, take off their bras, reach over their heads, and do their jobs) were solved by simply moving a mouse and keyboard to the correct spot which then stopped the chronic irritation that ultimately led to monster pain. Although that example was for a physical problem, the same concept applies to emotional issues too.
The tiny things we do and think every day tend to affect us much greater than the massive things that happen on rare occasion. However, something massive changed what I can and can’t do every day…which brings me back to how much the tiny things we do and think about all the time matter.
Although I frequently think about the people I know who read this blog, it’s been months since I’ve been willing to make time to write a blog post. It’s just not a priority right now. That’s not fair to those who signed up from a health-related article hoping for regular posts. (For those who are friends, you know how to get in touch with me. I’m certainly not saying that you’re a lower priority than a project, but me writing a blog post doesn’t do anything for our friendship.)
Right now I can’t say if I will or won’t be back, but this is my last post at least for a while. I may post personal stories over at AComfortableSoul. If you’re interested in celiac disease, that is part of my personal story and there will be times I write about it. If things go as expected, I’ll likely move a few posts from this blog to that one before eventually disabling SatisfactionAndBeyond. I love to write and am likely to continue with it as a hobby, but until I have more energy, the stories will be rare.
Thanks for reading along the last few years. I hope you’ve found some posts helpful. I’ll leave with the following:
- Eat whole foods and drink good water
- Move – every joint, every day
- Rest and recovery is as important as work and a healthy amount of stress
- Love yourself and those around you with fierce and gentle compassion
- Remember that you always have a choice and that your thoughts and perspectives are powerful…that can be positive or negative, so be mindful to keep them positive