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Last week we talked about five key questions that help us focus so we get greater rewards faster and with less effort. The five questions are:

  1. What do I want? (What are my goals?)
  2. What gets me what I want fastest?
  3. Does this item on my list fit into both of those categories?
  4. What’s stopping me?
  5. What can I do to get rid of what’s stopping me fastest?

We already covered 1-3. Let’s get to work with 4 and 5.


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What’s Stopping You?

You know what you want and you know how to get there. Now it’s time to get to the bottom of why you don’t already have what you want. It’s possible you aren’t there yet because until you really thought about it, you just didn’t know. However, it’s a lot more likely that there are other factors involved.  Make a list of the major things that have stopped you from living the life you want.

External things like money and education can certainly be part of your list, but internal things should be consider too. Things like fear (of failure or success), self-esteem, and motivation. It’s all too easy to forget that part of your circle of influence includes you.


Are You Under The Influence?

People said things to us while we were growing up, and those comments created the picture we have of ourselves. The problem is, sometimes the things people said weren’t true…you just accepted them as true because you were a kid.

So, when you look through the list of things stopping you, look closely. How many of the “deal breakers” have to do with how you see yourself? Regardless of what anyone else thinks, some of the “that’s just me” that you’ve accepted really isn’t you at all. It’s a limitation you can remove by changing your internal chatter and learning new skills.


What Can I Do To Get Rid Of What’s Stopping Me Fastest?

We’re all pretty good at seeing why things don’t work. But it takes a bit of practice to learn to see how to turn non-working situations into workable solutions. The more often you succeed at turning things around, the better you’ll get. But that doesn’t help you now, does it?

Let me share a few things that have worked for me.

1) Look at your problem, and then pretend that the problem isn’t yours—it belongs to a character in a book, TV show, or movie. You know where the character is now and what the happy ending is; be creative and fill in the rest of the story. Often even seemingly silly solutions present ideas that only need some tweaking to make them realistic. Sometimes just looking at it as though it isn’t your problem makes it easier to come up with solutions.

2) Imagine that your success is someone’s dying wish and they don’t have much time. If you find a solution, you know that you’ll help them smile one more time.

3) Just before you fall asleep, think about the problem you want to solve, imagine yourself being successful (in detail with sight, smell, feel, sound, and taste), and then go to sleep. This one works less frequently than the other two options, but I’ve been surprised with the solutions my dreams present.

4) Ask for directions, preferably before all else fails. You aren’t alone in this world and there are bound to be people who’ve been in similar situations. Ask them how they did it. You just might be in someone else’s circle of influence in a way that allows them to help you while benefiting both of you.


Take Action

Now that you’ve figured out what you want, what’s been stopping you, and how to succeed quickly, get to work and make your dreams come true. The best plans are nothing without action.



After I realized that damage from a parasite infection left me physically unable to return to practice and treat patients, I missed helping people feel better and get better. Writing a fiction book was a lot of fun, but I didn’t find it as rewarding as helping people. So, I went to work with a couple of friends and created Indestructible Desk Jockey. It’s a great downloadable program designed for people who sit for long periods of time, and I think it can help a lot of people.

Figuring out how to get the word out is one of my current problems. One of the fastest solutions I can think of is simply to ask you all to go check out the sales page for Indestructible Desk Jockey and tell other people about it if you think Desk Jockey might help them. You can even set up an affiliate account and earn money when someone buys based on your recommendation. I don’t mind sharing the profits…I just want people using the program, getting results, and feeling good!

Take care,

Kathryn 🙂


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