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When all else fails…

This post won’t be for everyone, but if it’s for you, it might change your life.


Are you eating right, exercising, sleeping 8 hours most nights, and still feeling like crap or failing to get the body you want?  If the answer is ‘yes,’ something needs to change.


First, are you being honest with yourself.  I mean that with full respect.  The best of us lie to ourselves.  If you’re lying to yourself, stop it.  Seriously!  Respecting yourself enough to know that you’re capable of seeing something you didn’t want to see and actually fixing it is very rewarding.  If you’re being honest, keep reading.


Regardless of how condescending anyone else has ever been to you when you tell them that you’re doing all this great stuff without results, I’m not going to do that.


Here’s the deal.  Most valid advice works for a very large percentage of the population.  But for a small percent, something prevents them from succeeding.  Most doctors, trainers, etc., fully understand the advice that works, and because it works for most of their clients, it’s really easy for them to think that what’s broken is you instead of the technique.  A few specialists know better.



Time to branch out...

When you know that you did all that was asked of you without getting results, you start looking for a specialist.  But even the guy who helped your sister’s, brother’s, cousin’s friend didn’t help you.  This results in a nasty cycle of trying harder and harder while feeling progressively worse about yourself and your lack of results.  Let’s stop that cycle by realizing that the “something” that is preventing your success might be yet another small fraction within the most likely reasons someone doesn’t respond to the common solution.    If I’ve been clear up to this point, you get the idea that the thing stopping you can be a little like a needle in a haystack.


Haystack or not, needles hurt.  A needle you can’t find sticks you over and over until either you give up or you get more desperate and start trying silly stuff.  To complicate things, sometimes it isn’t just one needle.


Don’t give up.  Knowing that you’re not lazy, crazy, weak, or any of those other negative terms that you’ve seen or heard people (including yourself) apply to you does wonders for your soul.  More often than not, progress can be made.  Even if your needle isn’t fully removable, at least you’ll understand what’s going on and can be compassionate with yourself again.


I can’t cover everything in a single post, but I can give you some of the most common reasons people aren’t getting results even after making significant lifestyle changes.  When it comes to mental health, I don’t have enough experience to know what the common “needles” are—it might involve making diet and lifestyle changes, doing work in therapy, and finding the medication(s) that works for you—but someone else with more mental health experience would be better suited to discuss those particular “needles.”



Feeling sluggish?


If you’re doing everything right and you’re tired, it can feel like you’re sleeping your life away.

The following can be places to start looking.

  • Anemia
  • Infection (often dental, but can be anywhere)
  • Celiac disease
  • Food allergy or intolerance
  • Cancer
  • Sleep apnea
  • Mood disorders
  • Hormonal imbalance
  • Digestive disorders (especially failure to adequately breakdown and absorb food and nutrients)



  • Diabetes or metabolic syndrome
  • Celiac disease
  • Food allergies or intolerances
  • Hormonal imbalance
  • Digestive disorders (especially failure to adequately breakdown and absorb food and nutrients)
  • Mood disorders that result in poor impulse control
  • Altered perception of proportions
  • Low grade intestinal infections altering digestion and absorption



  • Low testosterone
  • Other hormonal imbalance
  • Diabetes
  • Celiac disease
  • Food allergies or intolerances
  • Infection (often dental but can be anywhere)
  • Altered perception of proportions
  • Digestive disorders (especially failure to adequately break down and absorb food and nutrients)
  • Cancer



  • Celiac disease
  • Food intolerance or allergy
  • Cancer
  • Chronic infection (often dental but can be anywhere)
  • Digestive disorders (especially failure to adequately breakdown and absorb food and nutrients)


It’s easy to run through those lists and dismiss something because it isn’t affecting you in textbook style.  I know someone who isn’t even 20 yet, had a host of diagnoses, was obese despite bariatric surgery, had hormonal issues, lived in constant pain, and is now changing all of that (including losing 30 pounds in a fairly short time) by avoiding a food she’s intolerant to.  I know what you’re thinking.  A food did all that?  Yes.  Sometimes something simple can wreak havoc.  It’s the persistent drops of water that build a canyon.


If you’re living a life of pain and frustration, keep working your way through one thing at a time until you find the solution.  Life is way too short to merely survive it.

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2 Responses to “When all else fails…”

  1. Slimwithin says:

    Thanx so much Kathryn 🙂
    You haven’t been reading myfatloss Journal have you?
    I so needed to read this. I was diagnosed with celiac disease several years ago but have only recently kicked my carb addiction and am 25 days GF 🙂
    Thank u

  2. Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Congratulations to you for your 25 days GF!! I’ve not been reading your journal, but I know the journey. 🙂 You’re welcome, and keep up the great work!

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